Better relationships
for the rest of your life
#1
Globally
Recognized as the premier relationship system
38 million
Relationships
Empowered by the Gottman Method
50 years
Active Research
Proven, science-backed approaches
The 5 dating tips helped me find the love of my life. Thank you Gottman!!
Review from Lisa
We had not been connecting well and the Gottman Adviser has prompted deeper discussions and connection.I honestly think this program saved our marriage!
Review from Jesse B.
Working with a Gottman Therapist has transformed me as a person. For the first time ever, I feel ready for a partner.
Review from Gemma
3 months after joining Lessons for Love I found my girlfriend. I still use my learned knowledge every day.
Review from Mark
It has helped us better understand communication; it validated my feelings of not being alone such as 69% of couples had the same problems when they came back 2 years later
Review from Catriona H.
We communicate better and are more intentional with each other. Very helpful!
Review from Lindsay D.
A Happier Relationship Starts Today
Love Notes delivers a free monthly PDF worksheet packed with expert relationship exercises for you and your partner.
Why do we always fight about the same thing?
Some issues aren’t solvable, they’re perpetual, rooted in personality or values. If these leave you feeling stuck, you may be in gridlock. The goal isn’t to fix them, but to manage them with empathy and understanding.
Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser or the Dealing with Conflict Coach for help.
How do I get better about expressing my needs?
Start by noticing what you’re feeling, then state a positive need. Instead of reacting with anger, say what you do need: “I need a few quiet minutes.” This simple shift creates more connection.
Explore more tools in the Gottman Relationship Adviser or the Feeling Seen and Heard Coach.
What is Gottman’s top relationship advice for couples?
Turn toward each other, build trust and friendship, and repair after conflict. Accept each other’s influence and focus on understanding rather than winning. These habits create lasting, healthy relationships.
Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser for a full assessment and tools to build a stronger connection.
How do we keep our physical connection alive and fulfilling?
Emotional safety, friendship, and closeness are key to a satisfying sex life. When partners feel secure and connected, intimacy becomes more fulfilling and meaningful over time. And don’t forget to talk about sex!
If those feel out of sync, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. For targeted support, try the Enriching Your Sex Life Coach.
What is one of Gottman’s most important communication tips for my relationship?
Turn toward bids for connection, the everyday actions your partner takes to ask for attention and love. These small moments build emotional trust. Ignoring bids leads to more conflict.
Learn how to spot and respond to bids with the Gottman Relationship Adviser or the Feeling Seen and Heard Coach.
"You’re Fighting With Your Partner All Wrong."
“...the renowned experts on marital stability."
“The Einstein of Love”
“Legendary Couples Therapists John and Julie Gottman Say This Common Communication Advice Is Dead Wrong”
"These 5 science-based tips can improve your relationship"
“The right way to fight with your significant other”
“Researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples can predict divorce with 94% accuracy largely based on this communication error”
“Understanding the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" Can Actually Save Your Relationship”
“How Long Does It Take to Fix a Marriage? Give the Gottmans 7 Days.”
“You Should Probably Start Paying More Attention To 'Bids' In Your Relationship”
50 years of Research
Transform your relationship
For over 50 years, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman have dedicated their lives to transforming relationships with proven, science-backed methods. From helping couples reconnect to training clinicians to do the same, their work has brought healing, hope, and deeper connection to millions. Whether you’re strengthening your own relationship or supporting others, Gottman is here to guide you every step of the way.
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Dr. John Gottman’s Four Horsemen are four negative communication habits that can predict the end of a relationship. The good news? Each has a healthy antidote to turn things around.
The Magic 5:1 Ratio
Dr. Gottman found that for every negative interaction, a stable and happy relationship has five or more positive interactions, or a ratio of 5:1. Having a ratio below 5:1 within conflict is a potential divorce indicator.
Small Things Often
The idea that the seemingly insignificant, everyday moments hold more weight than isolated, extravagant gestures when it comes to building emotional longevity in your relationship.
Sound Relationship House
Core to Gottman Method, this theory features nine components of a healthy relationship represented as levels of a house. Partners build upon each level to create a sturdy bond.
Turning Toward
One of the greatest predictors of your relationship’s success is your ability to turn towards bids for connection—the verbal or non-verbal attempts a person makes to connect with their partner.
Attunement
The desire and ability to understand and respect your partner’s inner world. When couples attune to each other, they feel more connected and loved, and they even have better sex.
Six Second Kiss
John Gottman suggests couples share a six-second kiss each day, which he calls a “kiss with potential” because research has shown that it can often lead to deeper intimacy.
The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work
Seven practical, evidence-based strategies that help couples strengthen their friendship, manage conflict in healthy ways, deepen emotional connection, and build a meaningful life together.
Explore All Our Solutions
Original price was: $210.00.$49.00Current price is: $49.00.
Get a free Summer Guide with purchase!
This collection of five expert-led webinars provides proven strategies for a thriving relationship, whether just starting out or looking for improvements after years together.
This summer give your relationship the gift of deeper connection and growth with our brand-new Gottman Essentials Webinar Bundle!
Strengthen your bond, improve communication, and build lasting love – now for an exclusive introductory price!
Who This Bundle is For:
- New and long-term couples looking to invest in lasting love
- Anyone seeking practical communication tools and conflict resolution skills
- Partners wanting to reignite intimacy and rediscover excitement
- Couples needing easy, everyday ways to deepen emotional connection
- Those ready to build trust and a supportive, loving environment
Why You’ll Love It:
- Expert Insights: Learn from certified Gottman therapists and LMFTs
- Proven Techniques: Real-world strategies you can apply immediately
- Valuable Savings: Get $210 worth of webinars for just $49
- Instant Access: Pre-recorded sessions you can watch anytime, anywhere
Note: You will purchase and use this product on GOTTMAN CONNECT.
Original price was: $250.00.$149.00Current price is: $149.00.
Free Summer Guide with purchase! The Gottman Relationship Adviser is a complete approach to relationship wellness. Measure your relationship health with the research-based Gottman Assessment, analyze five key areas of your partnership to identify your strengths and weaknesses, then start a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection—all on your schedule and from anywhere.
The Adviser uses the legendary scientific Gottman Method to help you understand what’s really going on in your relationship—and gives you exactly what you need to improve it.
$599.00
Created by “the Einstein of Love” (Psychology Today), this two-day workshop is grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable. See for yourself why millions of couples worldwide have benefited from the Gottman Method.
Quote from participant in most recent Live Virtual Workshop:
The Art and Science of Love workshop- where do I begin? It was an absolute stellar workshop. We were looking forward to this for weeks, and it exceeded our expectations! It was well-structured, and well-organized, and provided a wealth of information with real-time demonstrations of how to work through specific scenarios. The outstanding support that was provided throughout the exercises with therapists on standby- WOW! Priceless!
Includes the Art & Science of Love box set. Please allow time for shipping. Please Note: This is a live online event. To attend, you will need a reliable internet connection. Our staff will reach out to you with your personal registration and access information.
Original price was: $298.00.$139.00Current price is: $139.00.
Drs John and Julie Gottman are excited to introduce this Gottman Relationship Coach collection, All About Conflict.
The first program, “Dealing with Conflict” teaches the basics of communication in conflict. You will learn which of the problems your relationship faces are solvable, and which you may continue to encounter. If any of these perpetual problems have you stuck, the Gottmans can help you get “unstuck” and understand each other’s perspectives. “Dealing with Conflict” helps prepare you for the regular, inevitable moments of friction that are bound to arise in any relationship.
The second program, “What to Do After a Fight” teaches how to navigate more difficult arguments and the feelings that come along with them. If “Dealing with Conflict” makes regular communication “smooth sailing,” “What to Do After a Fight” helps you address rough waters to keep your relationship from capsizing. Often, more serious arguments arise because they touch on values and beliefs one or both of you hold dear. Explore what’s underneath the storm with the game-changing exercises contained in this program.
NOTE: If you already purchased “Dealing with Conflict” or “Making Up After an Argument” individually and want to take advantage of this special offer, make sure you are logged in to your Gottman Connect account and the price difference will automatically be deducted from your purchase of the second program.
Original price was: $298.00.$139.00Current price is: $139.00.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s Gottman Relationship Coach Love & Intimacy collection. With more than 50 years of research into relationships, Drs. John and Julie Gottman are here to share their knowledge with you. Learn from the experts in this new Gottman Relationship Coach Bundle, All About Love, which combines three of our most popular products: “How to Make Your Relationship Work,” “Loving Out Loud,” and “Building a Life Together.”
Original price was: $298.00.$139.00Current price is: $139.00.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s Gottman Relationship Coach Love & Intimacy collection. With more than 50 years of research into relationships, Drs. John and Julie Gottman are here to share their knowledge with you. Learn from the experts in this new All About Intimacy Gottman Relationship Coach Bundle, which combines three of our most popular products: Loving Out Loud, Feeling Seen and Heard, Enriching Your Sex Life
Explore the Gottman Relationship Couples Blog
Face-to-Face Moments
Discover new ways to improve your relationship with a Gottman certified specialist.
Are you looking for a
Professional Therapist?
